Monday, October 22, 2012

Age of Accountability!


A couple of months ago I was talking to Zahn about his upcoming baptism and he very earnestly said to me, 'I just don't think I'm ready to get baptised mum'. While his comment surprised me, I tried to be somewhat casual about it, while still acknowledging his feelings, and told him "everything will be fine son"!!

I was hoping the comment may have been a one off, but as we drew closer to his birthday and his baptism date, this trepidation he felt only increased. After a few heartfelt discussions with Zahn, Chad and I decided that if he really didn't feel ready, we would wait. But in the mean time, we would continue to make preparations, and do our best to help him feel ready.

We had organised for the missionaries to come and teach the discussions with him and hoped that this would help ease his troubled little heart. After the first discussion, I was lying in bed with Zahn saying goodnight, and again, he said so earnestly, "I just don't feel ready. I don't understand everything so how can I get baptised?". This was a sweet opportunity to share my feelings with him and to let him know that even as an adult, I don't always understand everything. I tried to explain on his level, that as we try our best to stay on the path that Heavenly Father has set for us, we begin to understand, step by step of the journey.  

While I tried not to worry and kept reminding myself that things always work out in the end (they really do), my heart did worry. 

We continued the discussions with the missionaries, and tried to clarify anything Zahn had questions about.

One night we were talking and he got a bit upset......again we shared special words and I reassured him that the decision was his and dad and I were there to support him, and help him make the right choice.

When Zahn had his 8 year old interview with the Bishop, I went in with him, and without knowing any of the concerns Zahn had been having, the words the Bishop shared were almost the same words I had previously shared with Zahn the night we lay in bed and chatted about his baptism. The Bishop talked about how we don't always understand everything, but as we are obedient and as we do the things Heavenly Father asks us to do, we are blessed and above all, we are happy.

From this moment, everything changed. Suddenly Zahn was saying he felt ready, and he was getting more and more excited.

The day before his birthday, he said to me: 'I just wish today was tomorrow so I could get baptised now'.

The baptism was a beautiful service filled with words from loving grandparents that shared things with Zahn that will help him on his journey of life. In fact, the words shared could not have been more suitable for him. As I watched him enter the font with Chad, and as he smiled up at all the people watching, the smile on his face told me, without doubt, he was ready!

How grateful I am for a knowledge of the truth and for the privilege it is to watch as my children also come to a knowledge of this truth.

Sunday 30th September, 2012. A beautiful day that we will not forget.


6 comments:

Freja said...

What an interesting account .. I love your approach as a supportive parent, and sincerely admire your strength in resolving to listen to the spirit and help your son feel like his opinion mattered. Thanks for sharing this Felicity.

N.A.D.I.A said...

Beautiful! What a great spirit Zahn has! And a great mum and Dad he's got too!

Lisha said...

How beautiful Felicity, that is indeed gentle parenting, very admirable to give Zahn the time he needed for it to feel right. I'm sure he will always remember these special moments.

Carli said...

Zahn seems very thoughtful to me. That is an admirable quality (he thinks deeply like his Mum!). Just tonight Maya's stressed about baptism for a different reason (having to go under the water)!

Leah Aston said...

This is a tender account. I'm proud of him for taking it all seriously and being able to talk about his concerns. It really shows he cares and is trying to make the right choice. I wish I could be there to give him a big hug right now!

Sandy M. said...

A beautiful post and a beautiful picture! Thank you :)

Our oldest daughter was very similar. She has always taken her testimony very seriously :)

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