Showing posts with label womanhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label womanhood. Show all posts

Friday, October 11, 2013

Half the Sky


In general, my blog is not a platform for which I share political views, global issues, or controversial articles and ideas that may or may not interest me. It is generally a happy place where I share thoughts and pictures, bits and pieces of life as we live it.

But deep down, whether people talk about issues that affect them or not, I believe we all have things we are deeply passionate about. For me, one of those issues is the mistreatment of girls and women around our globe. To be clear, I'm not talking about cultural differences and misunderstandings (or ignorance for that matter). I'm talking about the horrific way millions of girls and women live every.single.day of their lives. Something that most of us reading this, will never truly comprehend.

About 6 months ago, my sister'n'law Leah, recommended I read the book, "Half the Sky, How to Change the World" by Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn. Since devouring the book, much of my thoughts have been consumed with the contents of its pages and I believe that everyone, Everyone, should read this book. It's not an easy book to read at times, but the old adage "Education is the key to change" rings true through each of its pages. If we aren't aware of the issues out there, how can we be apart of the movement that causes change?


Today is International Day of the Girl Child and in honor of that, I would like to share with you a book review of Half the Sky written by Leah. Leah is a brilliant writer and activist in her own right and I am thrilled that she has written a review of this eye opening, inspiring book for us to read here!


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In the nineteenth century, the central moral challenge was slavery. In the twentieth century, it was the battle against totalitarianism. We believe that in this century the paramount moral challenge will be the struggle for gender equality around the world.” 

― Nicholas D. Kristof, Half the Sky: Turning Oppression into Opportunity for Women Worldwide.


After reading Half the Sky I am convinced that husband and wife writers Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn are correct: the central struggle of this century is for greater gender equality. There is something truly broken in our society, and unfortunately women and girls are bearing the brunt of this brokenness. Here are a few facts from the book. When you read them, really think about these numbers:
 
* In many communities around the world, girls are seen as less valuable than boys. As a result, an
   estimated 60 million girls are “missing” from various populations due to the selective abortion of
   female fetuses and the mistreatment and neglect of female children.
* The typical age of entry into prostitution is 13 to 14 and almost 33% of women got started in
   prostitution through family members or friends.
* 90% of girls and women over the age of three were sexually abused in parts of Liberia during the
   civil war.
* In the United States, a woman is abused, usually by her husband or partner, every 15 seconds and
   is raped every 90 seconds.
* One year of female schooling reduces fertility by 10 percent and a child born to a woman who can
   read is 50% more likely to survive past age 5.
* More than one million children are left motherless every year due to their mother’s death and these
   children are 3 to 10 times more likely to die within two years.
* Up to 2 million women in the world are currently living with fistulas. This number grows every
   year by up to 50,000 cases.
* Approximately 70 percent of the world’s poor are women and girls; women earn less than 10% of
   the world’s wages but do more than two-thirds of the world’s work.

So yes. This book is about horrific things. It is about rape. It is about sexual slavery. It is about honor killings. It is about female genital mutilation and maternal mortality. It is about economic inequality and the need for more education. But this book is also so much more. In dealing with these heavy issues, it is clear that Kristof and WuDunn spent just as much time on the research as they did thinking about how to present the information and stories that they found.

The result is something truly special. Instead of presenting piles of data and numbers, because, as they say, “even when numbers are persuasive, they are not galvanizing,” the authors take the time to spotlight the lives and experiences of women around the world. To be sure, some of these stories are hard to read. You’ll be introduced to the story of a young Cambodian, Srey Rath, who went to Thailand to work, was forced into prostitution and traded to Malaysia, succeeded in escaping, was imprisoned under Malaysian anti-immigration law and released after a year only to be sold by the police to a trafficker who sold her on to a brothel in Thailand. Heavy? Yes. Important? Also yes.

But it doesn’t stop there. This isn’t just a book about the mistreatment of women and suffering and everything that is wrong with the world. It is a story of hope. It is a story of unbelievable courage, of women who are already working tirelessly to help the women around them.

Remember Srey Rath? Eventually she escaped from her brothel and built a thriving retail business that now supports her family. You’ll learn about an Ethiopian woman with life-threatening maternal injuries that received help just in time and went on to become a surgeon. You’ll hear about a Zimbabwean mother of five who earned her doctorate and became an expert on AIDS. And you’ll also be exposed to important initiatives occurring all across the globe that actively provide help and assistance to women: women like Edna Adan, who invested everything she had into building a hospital in Somaliland – a country with one of the highest maternal and infant mortality rates in the world. And women like Urmi Basu, who founded a school to protect and educate girls in a high-risk red light district in Kolkata, India. These women are the heroes of the book and they are the heart and soul of Kristof and WuDunn’s message.

In the Western world many of the problems discussed in this book can seem so far away. So removed. And they might be. But I challenge you to read this book and walk away without feeling like we as a society, we as the privileged, have a responsibility to do more for our sisters that hold up half the sky.

The unfortunate reality is that women’s issues are marginalized, and any case of sex trafficking and mass rape should no more be seen as women’s issues than slavery was a black issue or the Holocaust was a Jewish issue. These are all humanitarian concerns, transcending any one race, gender, or creed.

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I know in reality that many people may not want to read about such horrors. These kind of global issues are somewhat peripheral, and that's comfortable for many people. But for the sake of the women and girls around our globe that often don't have a voice, please read this book, and allow yourself to be moved to action.


To purchase a copy of this most important book go HERE! Best $14 you could possibly spend.


ps) To read more of Leah's writing or to follow her around the world, you can read her travel blogs here and here.

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

"I am not my body".....


I honestly have no words to describe how this clip makes me feel and the emotion it stirs when I watch it. 

If you haven't already seen it (or even if you have) you should watch it now and feel your spirit gravitate towards heaven and this most remarkable and inspiring woman. 



I am changed because of the words and gratitude 

this woman shares with the world.


Thursday, March 4, 2010

Find YOU! Be YOU!




I know we're already a quarter of the way through the year but I find myself still thinking about what my aspirations are for the year ahead (besides growing a baby) and assessing what is really important to me. One of things I think about often is 'am I being true to who I am, and who I want to be??


Sometimes in this journey of Motherhood, and changing nappies and refereeing another fight, it's easy to get lost and forget who we are, as women and as individuals. Funnily enough though, I have learned that knowing who we are and putting our own desires aside for a time, while prioritising and Mothering, helps us truly find and become our best selves.



"Be you. Find you. Be happy with that"

Doesn't every woman want this. To be comfortable with who they are and happy with the choices they make. I love the fact that unlike the teenager years, there is a strong sense of self confidence that comes with Womanhood. I realise that 'finding ourselves' and being happy with who we are is a process that changes as we change. As we grow. As we learn.


I love being a Woman and a Mother!!! Anyone that knows me, knows this is true. I love bearing those titles and having this time at home with my 'babies'. (even if and when it's crazy - like today when Jasmin cried all day :) I know the day will come when I will have what may seem like unlimited time to do whatever it is I choose. My kids will be grown and nappies will be long gone. When that time comes, I'm pretty sure I won't look back and think 'I wish I was doing something else instead of enjoying that time with my kids'.

In saying that though, I also know how important it is to nurture and take care of ourselves. And that's the FIND YOU part. Finding the balance between doing things we are passionate about and taking care of our families. I know both of these things are important. Fulfilling and life enriching.

I think whatIi'm trying to say can be summed up in this quote that I love (and that I remind myself of when needed.......

"Women do not have to sacrifice personhood if they are mothers. They do not have to sacrifice motherhood in order to be persons. Liberation was meant to expand women's opportunities, not to limit them. The self-esteem that has been found in new pursuits can also be found in mothering"

Elaine Heffner


We can find ourselves and be true to that even while in the 'thick' of Mothering. It's true that when we serve we find the most Joy. This applies to serving our families too. Like I talked about HERE and HERE there is a time and a season in life for everything.


How grateful I am for my kids and for the things they teach me and the person they force HELP me to be :)


ps) not sure where the photos are originally from but I found them here.....


Monday, April 20, 2009

Unexpected......

I was excited for conference this Easter. Very Excited. I felt expectant of something poignant for me and was not disappointed.


After waying up my options (single mothering 2 boys that will happily sit/colour in at conference and Jasmin who will.....well.....who will not) I decided to watch conference at home. This was not an easy decision for me. In the past i've felt like that was somehow cheating (don't ask me why). but now that i've done it, my feelings have DEFINITELY CHANGED!


When the new Apostle Elder Anderson was called, it was a powerful moment for me. I was completely overcome with the Spirit. It was the STRONGEST confirmation I have received on something in a long time. Completely unexpected. Emotions aside. But recognition of the spirit talking directly to me. It was an answer to a heart felt prayer that had not been uttered.

I expected when he spoke it would be something important to me. But it wasn't necessarily. I mean I enjoyed his talk, but I didn't feel as if it was written "for me" (you know what I mean. when you come away from conference saying "that talk was totally for me".....I know we all do it....don't we???) So that in itself was another confirmation to me that what I had felt was the spirit acknowledging to me that this man was called of God.


I came away completely full. Renewed with determination to improve the things that need improving (most of which come down to my word for the year anyway....."discipline".....ahhh sigh).

I'm so grateful that we have a living prophet that speaks to us on behalf of God. I particularly enjoyed the prophets talk "Be of good Cheer" (I would put a link here......but I don't know how :( Rylan sat with me for this one and I loved talking to him about it and explaining what it all meant. I can't even imagine the sorrow he spoke of as he relayed a story of a widowed woman traveling with her 5 children to Germany. Eventually she lost all 5 of her children while traveling, but never lost her faith and prayed for the strength she needed to finish her journey.


I am so grateful for the many woman I know that are women of absolute Faith. Women that don't give up no matter what life sometimes throws at them. Women that love the Lord. That rely on Him. That are dedicated to him. Women that are made strong because of their faith.


President Monson said, 'Our future is only as bright as our faith' and through the Lord we can overcome all things. I feel so blessed to belong to an 'organisation' built upon these eternal truths!!

There were so many other talks that I loved. but I won't summarize them all! I'll just leave it at that and say i'm looking forward to reviewing the talks through the 'general conference' book club!

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Quotes that I love......#1


"Women do not have to sacrifice personhood if they are mothers. They do not have to sacrifice motherhood in order to be persons. Liberation was meant to expand women's opportunities, not to limit them. The self-esteem that has been found in new pursuits can also be found in mothering"

Elaine Heffner

last Sunday I was asked to talk to the young women at church about being a woman and a mother. As I thought about my feelings on both of these things, I remembered and reflected on the following shocking story....

After I had rylan and had left work to be a 'stay at home mum' (which I didn't even really consider. It's just what I knew I would do) I was on a plane going to see chad while he was in Canberra for work. I was sitting next to a lovely lady and was chatting with her. She was obviously a very intelligent and educated woman and I was thoroughly enjoying talking to her. Until that is, she asked me "what is your line of work". I proudly answered "I'm a stay at home mum", to which the lady answered "oh........well......that's alright dear" (and she actually patted me on the arm (you know the kind of pat that oozes pity. CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT)

I was completely shocked that she thought I was apologizing and embarresed for saying I stayed at home instead of "going to work". To be honest I can't remeber what I said in response to "her response" but if I could go back to that moment I know exactly what I would say!!

I love that (for the most part) we live in a day and age of absolute opportunity and 'choice' for women. Women fought for the right to "choose". It wasn't about what choice they would make, it's that they COULD CHOOSE. I choose to stay at home (no shame in it)! One of the crazy. ignorant. ironic things about modern feminism is that "some" (key word) feminists put their own limitations on Women's choices. A little bit backwards really isn't it.

so for the record (incase you didn't already know :) I LOVE being a 'stay at home mum' (most days anyway.......hahahahaha)

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