Quotes that I love......#1

"Women do not have to sacrifice personhood if they are mothers. They do not have to sacrifice motherhood in order to be persons. Liberation was meant to expand women's opportunities, not to limit them. The self-esteem that has been found in new pursuits can also be found in mothering"

Elaine Heffner

last Sunday I was asked to talk to the young women at church about being a woman and a mother. As I thought about my feelings on both of these things, I remembered and reflected on the following shocking story....

After I had rylan and had left work to be a 'stay at home mum' (which I didn't even really consider. It's just what I knew I would do) I was on a plane going to see chad while he was in Canberra for work. I was sitting next to a lovely lady and was chatting with her. She was obviously a very intelligent and educated woman and I was thoroughly enjoying talking to her. Until that is, she asked me "what is your line of work". I proudly answered "I'm a stay at home mum", to which the lady answered "oh........well......that's alright dear" (and she actually patted me on the arm (you know the kind of pat that oozes pity. CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT)

I was completely shocked that she thought I was apologizing and embarresed for saying I stayed at home instead of "going to work". To be honest I can't remeber what I said in response to "her response" but if I could go back to that moment I know exactly what I would say!!

I love that (for the most part) we live in a day and age of absolute opportunity and 'choice' for women. Women fought for the right to "choose". It wasn't about what choice they would make, it's that they COULD CHOOSE. I choose to stay at home (no shame in it)! One of the crazy. ignorant. ironic things about modern feminism is that "some" (key word) feminists put their own limitations on Women's choices. A little bit backwards really isn't it.

so for the record (incase you didn't already know :) I LOVE being a 'stay at home mum' (most days anyway.......hahahahaha)